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When Emma Watson described herself as
"self-involved" in an interview with British Vogue this week, the
term met with a mixture of derision and admiration. Predictable me * sturbation
jokes made.
As Gwyneth Paltrow used the phrase "conscious
uncooling" to describe her separation from her husband Chris Martin, or
Mark Ronson's recent (albeit accidental) declaration that he was
"sapoacetic" (attracted to intelligence before appearance) , Any
deviation from limited language. Our relationships converge with relationships.
It's a shame. We need more words, people! Being able to
properly frame our current experiences is part of being human - and we need
more subtle language to better tell our story.
We are getting better by not labeling sexuality; Recognizing
that this is on a continuum and sometimes difficult to categorize. But as the
world, its politics and fear of imminent apocalypse change how we relate to
ourselves, other people and our futures, we are still stuck with old and
limited language around romantic relationships - and the lack of them nearby.
On government forms - and in life - only a few categories
are available: single, married, separated, divorced or widowed. When describing
so many diverse, so vivid, so integral people we keep ourselves in what little
box.
The words themselves are full of expectations about the
nature of experience. For example, take "divorce": a harsh word with
lots of negative baggage. What if your experience is tender, careful, cordial
and ultimately liberating? Isn't "consciously untouched" more
descriptive?
Actress Emma Watson arrived in Shanghai on February 27, 2017
for the Asian premiere of the Disney movie The Beauty and the Beast. / AFP /
Johannes EISEL
Asian premiere of the Disney movie The
Beauty and the Beast on February 27, 2017 in Shanghai. / AFP / Johannes EISEL
(must read photo credit Johannes EISEL / AFP / Getty Images) and if described
as single then what is technically correct, but aren't you really single? There
are so many ways to experience loneliness - and they are all valid.
Looking single and actively looking for a partner: telling
your friends to set you up to join the load of dating apps. Shall we call it
"actively pre-participation"?
One is the same and always wants to be single because you
love it. Assume that "Non-Committed" is committed.
Then someone's meeting and meeting with someone is open, but
it doesn't really push. "Passive Severity-Seeker"?
Or what if you have intense emotional and / or sexual
relationships with people; Connections that do not bring you into the
"duets" realm, but are still real and powerful. The language we have
is insufficient to describe something like this. How about
"omni-emo-sexual"?
And then there Emma Watson is described. "If you
haven't built a house, if you don't have a husband, if you don't have a child,
and you're 30 years old, and you're not in some incredibly safe, stable place
in your career, or You 'nevertheless find things out ... This is an incredible
amount of concern, "the Ivy League-educated United Nations ambassador and
BAFTA winner said that some have pointed out that this is a sign of the times.
"It's been a long time, but I'm very happy [single]. I am calling it
self-participation. "
I watch "self-partnerships" like taking some time
out of the meera-go-round of relationships to "look for one", and
instead know myself a little better.
This is a good thing, actively seeking to be more
self-aware; It can also prepare you for the next relationship (unless you are
committed non-committal, of course). But self-participation is also great in
itself. We are clinging to ourselves 24/7; We are all self-involved for life.
We will come to know forever and can be liked by the person with whom we will
always live.
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